When does a guest become a crasher? When they either pretend to be a member, or act as if they intend to join the club when they would never do so.
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When does a guest become a crasher? When they either pretend to be a member, or act as if they intend to join the club when they would never do so.
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Here are some of the pets in my life, my own and other people's, that deserve recognition for their names or other notable attributes.
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The offer we couldn't refuse: the Eco-Freaks needed a large truck, and the mobster had one.
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Two little Sony's and a tabletop radio in my bedroom.
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Stressed, unhappy parents create stressed, unhappy children.
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We'd had all the vaccines available at the time ... but this was the only time I refused a vaccine.
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... the engineers asked, "What did you do? How could you possibly break the program?"
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... so I picked up a tape of Night at the Opera and a large block of dark chocolate, and we all had a fun time that New Year's Eve.
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Used to be that "hey" was for horses ... No longer true.
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The 1930 census had my aunt's name as Ruchel and my mother's name as Henayeta. Huh?
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Most frustrating is when someone asks, "What did they say?" and I can't hear the next few minutes of dialog.
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Over the years, we've chatted about spouses, and more recently, aging parents. Philip knows me well ...
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After a couple of incidents this winter, I've concluded that I'd unconsciously adopted the successful survival strategies of the crow.
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Although there are jingles and slogans in advertising today, I don't believe they are as memorable as the ones from our younger years.
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This is my first memory, and is it accurate? I believe it is, especially now that I have a lot of context around it.
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1999: Friends first, then deep romance. 2000: Happiest time ever. 2001: He prefers time with (female) housemate, "trusted old friend."
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A saint's day isn't an appropriate holiday for nice Jewish girls, mom said.
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We all dressed carefully, and most of us wore hats. We had a lovely time, and the hats in many styles and colors added to the ambiance.
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The day of rededication ... The day of dignity restored ...
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In violation of the law, the ads were "segregated" ... Someone had to do something, we agreed, but what?
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I hadn't heard of this syndrome before it happened to me. At first I was surprised, but then later understood why it happened to me.
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Be proud of your accomplishments and intellect. Whew, all those highs and lows ...
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New ways to give thanks, even in thoughts, can show our gratitude.
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I seek solace with HGTV, the Food Network, and Rick Steves.
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It was dark, dark, dark, for days, and the bad air made walking outside impossible for nearly six weeks. And BAM, I was clobbered by SAD symptoms--in the middle of summer.
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The man winced and looked at me again. "I'm really sorry, I thought you were the stripper."
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In walked Kathy, with flawless white skin, a nice figure, and the most amazing hair ...
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Is spelling skill genetically determined? If so, where do the spelling genes reside in our DNA?
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The White Elephant Sale raises dollars in the millions for the museum and provides items for people in the community ...
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Each year, everyone complained that we were not spending enough time with them.
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It’s the Age of Aquarius, a 60s party, get your flower power on ...
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"Can I help?" a woman's voice asked from behind me. A young woman had appeared with a shovel.
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There were three other women ... and we stuck together. This was a good thing, because it turned out the men were angry--really angry.
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Trump signs are thankfully MIA, and Biden signs are relatively rare, since this preference is assumed.
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Our phone number was CE9-2609. CE stood for the Center exchange. No area code.
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No Buster Browns, Keds, or Thom McCanns for me. Just, ugh, saddle shoes ...
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While at first I didn't relish the extra burden, the experience turned out to be a gift.
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Seated there was a very elderly, diminutive woman, dressed in black, with wild white hair and a pixie-ish expression, very quiet but observing everything carefully.
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Every Sunday I listen to this amazing, funny, and very challenging game show that involves words ...
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I resorted to wearing sunglasses and a painter's mask to do any gardening, even trimming the lemon tree. Upon seeing me, my cat recoiled in horror.
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With a sigh, I gave the earring up for lost but kept its mate as a memento.
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The little girl stared and asked, "Daddy, what are those?" "These are records," he replied, "they play music."
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... it got to the point where her hands were raw, and the doctor told her to ease off. She didn't work in a sewer, he said.
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When you are the oldest, your parents practice on you. So you receive the benefits of more attention and bear the brunt of their mistakes.
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Her implication was clear. She was upset with me. While I was abashed and said I was sorry, our relationship was considerably cooler from then on.
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The point is, half our testing is useless, and even Cassandra doesn't have any idea which half.
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Unless my penmanship improved I could be held back and not go on to sixth grade.
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What was most unnerving? The police presence. While they weren't in riot gear, rows of cops stood their ground, clubs at the ready. Our knees shook.
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All seemed very normal in this town, as long as you stayed in your lane.
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One professional encounter started so small I could never anticipate how profoundly it would change how I thought about business and maybe even life.
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The room froze, and I immediately realized that I'd said something that was taken in a way I didn't mean.
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These teen-girl publications lacked content for nerdy girls like me, though.
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Occasionally I'd hear strange noises emanating from his basement office. Sometimes a squeak, sometimes a series of booms.
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Why the small beige box was in my mother's dresser I'll never know. The items pictured belonged to my father's father ...
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It didn't help that mom and grandma didn't write anything down. "You'll know when it's done ... just add a shake of that ..." was their response to my questions.
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Each time, shortly after I saw a rainbow, something bad would happen. Thus began what my husband and I called "the year of calamity and death."
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He was wearing Brut, perhaps in retrospect not the most subtle of scents. But I'll never forget the scent of Brut, forever associated with the amazing excitement of that first kiss.
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Once the shutdown happened, a friend phoned me asking when I thought we'd be released from it. "June," I replied without hesitation. I so wanted to be wrong, but the data guided me.
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The schtick was to make the parents guilty that their children were falling behind in school and things would get dire if they didn't get the encyclopedia.
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I've always dreamed in color. Colors that I've never seen in nature appear in my dreams.
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I have no memory of what we spoke about but cannot forget the image of this wonderful woman, now frail and with hands gnarled and arthritic, and her family's fortitude and selflessness.
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I looked into the back yard and saw my enormous oak tree whirling like a cocktail's swizzle stick, and then with a huge crack and boom, the tree split into three parts, from top to bottom.
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Henrietta was an awkward name for a tiny child ... so the family called her Yettie.
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What a bizarre intersection of a vacation from hell with a pandemic-stricken ship.
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"This is the weirdest, most interesting group of people I've ever encountered," I thought. "I fit right in!"
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Most of the conventional wisdom for caregivers comes down to putting yourself first, making time for yourself. To a large degree, that’s a crock. Your priorities won’t come first for the present, and probably for a while.
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Problem number one: I had no boyfriend and, although I was 17, I had never been on a date.
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My parents, who had thought it wonderful that I had grandpa Max's eyes, said it was unfortunate that I had his nose, too. Ah, well, I thought, that's the genetic roll of the dice.
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While we ate tuna fish and Soupy hawked Jello, all kinds of chaos would happen.
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I had optimistic hopes about what retirement would be like, tempered with realism.
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Things eventually calmed down ... but the next year I did not enter the football pool. Football was not yet a woman's domain.
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There are many lessons I have learned ... Moves are a complex blend of stress, opportunity, and calamity.
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I mostly remember taking my fountain pen and writing tiny, neat lines to cram the most onto the aerogram sheet.
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The floor under my feet seemed to drop away, and a roaring began in my head. I must have replayed the message 10 times. Was someone playing a cruel joke?
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Could the one Rolling Stones concert I attended have done that much damage?
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We were aware that it was bound to happen someday, but it sneaked up on us unexpectedly.
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At first I did worry about what to wear (torn, skinny jeans look great on a 30-year-old but on me, not so much), and whether I knew enough about my smart phone.
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Think of what we all could accomplish if all parties stopped eye rolling ... and lecturing ... and started working together.
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I don't remember much from that week, except for Tony ... Every time his eyes connected with mine, my heart gave a squeeze and then a leap.
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I gasped when I realized that I was the perfect target for a workplace bully--a textbook case.
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In an instant, there was a rumble and a slight jerk, and then a slow roll, as I watched the stacks of books opposite me rise about a foot and a half, and gently fall, as if carried by ocean waves.
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"She called my cell phone and thought I'd gone to Canada and ended up in jail."
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The cops stared, open-mouthed, at three 40-something bearded men and the motley trio of cars.
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When I came to the door, often the kids would greet me with "We don't want you, we want Karen!"
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The engineers ultimately understood that the game kept Joe going, giving him energy and focus.
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Route 101 looked like something out of a Mad Max movie ...
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Roussel was tall, elegant, very perceptive and demanding, but always kind and encouraging.
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We didn't have to sleep, but had to lie quietly for a time, which seemed like forever but couldn't have been more than 15 or 20 minutes.
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When I looked out the front door, I saw a hip-deep lake where my yard had been ...
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"We are stardust, we are golden, we are billion year old carbon."
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Turns out I was "only" 94% eastern European Jewish ...
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Outside my bay window I can see a parade of saris, hijabs, turbans, baseball caps, blue jeans, you name it.
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This story is something of a confession: I have had memorable episodes of boredom when I've been around other people ...
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She kept saying in her combination of Yiddish and English, "I can't believe they are walking on the moon."
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I'll never forget the syllabus for that summer Russian literature class, which included War and Peace, Anna Karenina, The Brothers Karamazov, Crime and Punishment, plus some stories by Pushkin, Gogol, and Chekov.
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Every 4th of July I spent in New Jersey I became exceptionally popular. This one time a year, everyone wanted me to be part of their group ...
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What's scary is how computer algorithms, AI, and all our technology can take data that is perfectly true and turn it into "facts" that are frighteningly false.
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If I still was feverish, I couldn't tell once we went outside in the steamy Caribbean.
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He said, "I look like Omar Sharif." I thought, "...yeah, and I look like Michelle Pfeiffer."
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United Cigar, run by the Cohen family, was packed with cigars and cigarettes, all types of magazine, and oh, the candy!
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The best college for you is the one that wants you to be there. ... choose the "wrong" major if it resonates with you.
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The bottom of the gym suit consisted of … bloomers. Yes, ballooning from the waist and ending in tight elastic at the widest part of the thigh.
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As exam week progressed, we could hear clack, clackety-clack, ding!!, clack, clack, from the living area and dorm rooms in the entire wing, along with the crinkle of bags of potato chips and Cheetos.
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I knew I really wasn't supposed to take the car to the beach, but the temptation was too much.
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The moaning whine infiltrated my nightmares for years. It became a reminder of a situation we could not ignore.
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We poets are at all levels, from awesomely accomplished to beginner. I am somewhere in the middle.
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Add a land line phone and a black-and-white TV with a coat hanger for an antenna, and my décor was almost complete.
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It seemed like so much fun to me. The real story was much more sobering but also inspiring ...
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I kept listening for the tick of the biological clock, but it never ticked.
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I am nostalgic for many things but not all. Here is a quick take on some of the items from the 50s and 60s I don’t miss. Women’s clothing: Panty girdles, with their tourniquet-like grip on my thighs. I’ll spare folks the details of feminine hygiene products and accessories of the 60s, but suffice it…
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The diner's booths were large enough to swallow a child as small as I was.
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For the first and only time, I saw humans flying, literally levitating around the room, so graceful that their bare feet never made a sound when they landed.
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At first 1979 would not seem to be a year of love and laughter, with its gas lines, stagflation, and odd fashions. But in a subliminal moment, a butterfly might alight, even on dried grass or trash, and its perfect wings might wink at you for an instant before it vanishes. That’s how I feel…
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Reluctantly I did a second career report, but my heart wasn't in it ... I began to wish to be a writer.
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This was my first big revelation--not only had I thought I was different, I really was different. Not only was I in a different physical package from the rest of the group, I had a unique personality profile.
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[he] said that it took a special person to handle this job. The last woman left to become a nun. What an outrageous and fun way to start an interview!
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Any woman reading this will identify the "yeah, sure lady" response to our describing a problem with our cars. The same can apply to our bodies.
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One of our family favorites was the goofy spy spoof "Get Smart." Don Adams had a never-ending variety of clumsy antics as a Control agent fighting Chaos (and losing).
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The characters I played were the ugly, the sad, the silly, the mad, the funny, the old, and the dead. Any role that was quirky attracted me.
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Who knew that wind chimes, sunlight through stained glass, and sandalwood could open up another world, one of peace and love?
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Few boys, dreadful food, and gleepy green scum at the bottom of the lake--but the swimming, waterskiing, and guitar playing more than made up for it.
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How they made their way in this strange place to find my great grandfather, with no money and speaking no English, I have no idea.
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In the 1950s and 1960s, there was no television reception on Long Beach Island. Instead, we went out after dinner for lemon ice (made with real lemons and cane sugar), and played a round of miniature golf.
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Jeff lived next door to my close friend Sherry, so I hung out at her house, trying to make myself visible without being too pushy. That’s what girls did in 1970. Boys did the asking to the prom.
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She passed for 16 so she could work in a garment factory. She never saw the inside of a school room but had wanted to be a doctor. ... She was a woman grounded in tradition who never stopped looking to the future.
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... numbers corresponding to the days of the year were written on slips of paper and placed in plastic capsules, which were put into a deep glass jar (at the time I’d imagined a bingo cage).
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Her mouth rounded as she faced us and said, "This is Oh--Oh--repeat after me:
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The Club Crashers
Prompted By Cliques and Clubs
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When does a guest become a crasher? When they either pretend to be a member, or act as if they intend to join the club when they would never do so.
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My Pet Awards
Prompted By Naming Pets
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Here are some of the pets in my life, my own and other people's, that deserve recognition for their names or other notable attributes.
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Eco-Freaks Meet the Mob
Prompted By Recycling
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The offer we couldn't refuse: the Eco-Freaks needed a large truck, and the mobster had one.
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Impressions: Radios
Prompted By Remembering Radios
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Two little Sony's and a tabletop radio in my bedroom.
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Stuck-at-Home
Prompted By Stay-at-Home Parent
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Stressed, unhappy parents create stressed, unhappy children.
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From Sugar to a Shot at Freedom
Prompted By Vaccination
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We'd had all the vaccines available at the time ... but this was the only time I refused a vaccine.
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Honey, I Broke the Software!
Prompted By Technology Tribulations
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... the engineers asked, "What did you do? How could you possibly break the program?"
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Sanity Clause
Prompted By Rewatchable Movies
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... so I picked up a tape of Night at the Opera and a large block of dark chocolate, and we all had a fun time that New Year's Eve.
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Hey! You’re Welcome.
Prompted By Manners
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Used to be that "hey" was for horses ... No longer true.
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Hidden in Names and Eyes
Prompted By Inequality
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The 1930 census had my aunt's name as Ruchel and my mother's name as Henayeta. Huh?
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Quiet, Please
Prompted By Pet Peeves
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Most frustrating is when someone asks, "What did they say?" and I can't hear the next few minutes of dialog.
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Forty-Plus Years with Philip
Prompted By Haircuts
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Over the years, we've chatted about spouses, and more recently, aging parents. Philip knows me well ...
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The Year of the Crow
Prompted By One Year of the Pandemic
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After a couple of incidents this winter, I've concluded that I'd unconsciously adopted the successful survival strategies of the crow.
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Eat too Much? Drink too Much?
Prompted By Advertising Jingles and Slogans
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Although there are jingles and slogans in advertising today, I don't believe they are as memorable as the ones from our younger years.
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Tongue Tied
Prompted By First Memory
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This is my first memory, and is it accurate? I believe it is, especially now that I have a lot of context around it.
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Found-Lost-Found-Lost-Found?
Prompted By Reconnecting
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1999: Friends first, then deep romance. 2000: Happiest time ever. 2001: He prefers time with (female) housemate, "trusted old friend."
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V-day Mini Rant
Prompted By Valentine's Day
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A saint's day isn't an appropriate holiday for nice Jewish girls, mom said.
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A Hat for All Seasons
Prompted By Hats
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We all dressed carefully, and most of us wore hats. We had a lovely time, and the hats in many styles and colors added to the ambiance.
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January 20, 2021
Prompted By Inaugurations
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The day of rededication ... The day of dignity restored ...
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Signing on the Line
Prompted By Good Trouble
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In violation of the law, the ads were "segregated" ... Someone had to do something, we agreed, but what?
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Stendhal Syndrome at the National Portrait Gallery
Prompted By Art and Art Museums
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I hadn't heard of this syndrome before it happened to me. At first I was surprised, but then later understood why it happened to me.
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To My Many Selves
Prompted By Letter to My Younger Self
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Be proud of your accomplishments and intellect. Whew, all those highs and lows ...
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Many Paths to Gratitude
Prompted By Thank You
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New ways to give thanks, even in thoughts, can show our gratitude.
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Pandemic Fantasies
Prompted By What Are You Bingeing?
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I seek solace with HGTV, the Food Network, and Rick Steves.
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‘Tis the Season?
Prompted By Hello Darkness
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It was dark, dark, dark, for days, and the bad air made walking outside impossible for nearly six weeks. And BAM, I was clobbered by SAD symptoms--in the middle of summer.
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Marian’s Interview Academy Awards
Prompted By Interviews
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The man winced and looked at me again. "I'm really sorry, I thought you were the stripper."
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The Kathy Legacy
Prompted By Interviews
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In walked Kathy, with flawless white skin, a nice figure, and the most amazing hair ...
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Spelling: Nature vs Nurture
Prompted By Spelling
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Is spelling skill genetically determined? If so, where do the spelling genes reside in our DNA?
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Elephants and Libraries for Oakland
Prompted By Volunteering
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The White Elephant Sale raises dollars in the millions for the museum and provides items for people in the community ...
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Holidays Past and Now, Memories of Italian Songs
Prompted By Pandemic Holidays
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Each year, everyone complained that we were not spending enough time with them.
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A Doggerel for the 60s
Prompted By Fads and Trends
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It’s the Age of Aquarius, a 60s party, get your flower power on ...
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Shovelers Anonymous
Prompted By Random Acts of Kindness
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"Can I help?" a woman's voice asked from behind me. A young woman had appeared with a shovel.
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What Would Reagan Have Done?
Prompted By Ghosts of Elections Past
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There were three other women ... and we stuck together. This was a good thing, because it turned out the men were angry--really angry.
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Signs of election times
Prompted By Buttons, Pins, and Badges
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Trump signs are thankfully MIA, and Biden signs are relatively rare, since this preference is assumed.
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A Mixed Bag of Tech Then and Now
Prompted By Life Before Computers
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Our phone number was CE9-2609. CE stood for the Center exchange. No area code.
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One Decade of Pretty Shoes
Prompted By Shoes
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No Buster Browns, Keds, or Thom McCanns for me. Just, ugh, saddle shoes ...
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Way to Go
Prompted By Final Farewell
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While at first I didn't relish the extra burden, the experience turned out to be a gift.
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A Degree Day of Observations
Prompted By Rites of Passage
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Seated there was a very elderly, diminutive woman, dressed in black, with wild white hair and a pixie-ish expression, very quiet but observing everything carefully.
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Listening to words
Prompted By Brain Games
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Every Sunday I listen to this amazing, funny, and very challenging game show that involves words ...
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A Garden of Visual Delights
Prompted By The Garden
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I resorted to wearing sunglasses and a painter's mask to do any gardening, even trimming the lemon tree. Upon seeing me, my cat recoiled in horror.
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Long lost, newly discovered
Prompted By Lost and Found
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With a sigh, I gave the earring up for lost but kept its mate as a memento.
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All Sales Final on Vinyl
Prompted By Yard Sales
/ Stories
The little girl stared and asked, "Daddy, what are those?" "These are records," he replied, "they play music."
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Right, then wrong, then almost right
Prompted By I Swore I'd Never
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... it got to the point where her hands were raw, and the doctor told her to ease off. She didn't work in a sewer, he said.
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The Big Sisters’ Club
Prompted By Birth Order
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When you are the oldest, your parents practice on you. So you receive the benefits of more attention and bear the brunt of their mistakes.
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A Two-Way Path
Prompted By Forgiveness
/ Stories
Her implication was clear. She was upset with me. While I was abashed and said I was sorry, our relationship was considerably cooler from then on.
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Cleared for Take-off, Hard Landing
Prompted By Pandemic Summer
/ Stories
The point is, half our testing is useless, and even Cassandra doesn't have any idea which half.
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A cursive compromise
Prompted By Cursive — Curse or Blessing?
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Unless my penmanship improved I could be held back and not go on to sixth grade.
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Candlelight and cops
Prompted By Protests
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What was most unnerving? The police presence. While they weren't in riot gear, rows of cops stood their ground, clubs at the ready. Our knees shook.
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Redlines, artists, and mobsters
Prompted By My Hometown
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All seemed very normal in this town, as long as you stayed in your lane.
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Random meeting, profound changes
Prompted By Chance Encounters
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One professional encounter started so small I could never anticipate how profoundly it would change how I thought about business and maybe even life.
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A Junior Mistake
Prompted By Embarrassment
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The room froze, and I immediately realized that I'd said something that was taken in a way I didn't mean.
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From Fashion to Feminism
Prompted By Magazines
/ Stories
These teen-girl publications lacked content for nerdy girls like me, though.
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A Geek in the Best Sense
Prompted By Aunts & Uncles
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Occasionally I'd hear strange noises emanating from his basement office. Sometimes a squeak, sometimes a series of booms.
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A War Experience Recovered
Prompted By Memorabilia
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Why the small beige box was in my mother's dresser I'll never know. The items pictured belonged to my father's father ...
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Creative cooking with what we have
Prompted By Recipes
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It didn't help that mom and grandma didn't write anything down. "You'll know when it's done ... just add a shake of that ..." was their response to my questions.
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Calamity Rainbow
Prompted By Superstition
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Each time, shortly after I saw a rainbow, something bad would happen. Thus began what my husband and I called "the year of calamity and death."
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Scents and non-scents
Prompted By Fragrant Flashbacks
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He was wearing Brut, perhaps in retrospect not the most subtle of scents. But I'll never forget the scent of Brut, forever associated with the amazing excitement of that first kiss.
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Some Random Pandemic Thoughts
Prompted By Pandemic - Pandemonium or Panacea?
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Once the shutdown happened, a friend phoned me asking when I thought we'd be released from it. "June," I replied without hesitation. I so wanted to be wrong, but the data guided me.
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Someone’s at the Door
Prompted By Door-to-Door Sales
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The schtick was to make the parents guilty that their children were falling behind in school and things would get dire if they didn't get the encyclopedia.
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Dreaming of Oz in Technicolor
Prompted By Dreams
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I've always dreamed in color. Colors that I've never seen in nature appear in my dreams.
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A Seder Celebrating Sacrifice and Safety
Prompted By Spring Celebrations
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I have no memory of what we spoke about but cannot forget the image of this wonderful woman, now frail and with hands gnarled and arthritic, and her family's fortitude and selflessness.
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Saved from the Tree by the Cat
Prompted By Close Calls
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I looked into the back yard and saw my enormous oak tree whirling like a cocktail's swizzle stick, and then with a huge crack and boom, the tree split into three parts, from top to bottom.
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Loud and Abominable
Prompted By Nicknames
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Henrietta was an awkward name for a tiny child ... so the family called her Yettie.
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COVID-19 and the Cursed Princess
Prompted By Vacation or Staycation from Hell
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What a bizarre intersection of a vacation from hell with a pandemic-stricken ship.
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Reconstructing a Tribe
Prompted By Finding Your Tribe
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"This is the weirdest, most interesting group of people I've ever encountered," I thought. "I fit right in!"
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Confessions of a Guilty Caregiver
Prompted By Caregiving
/ Stories
Most of the conventional wisdom for caregivers comes down to putting yourself first, making time for yourself. To a large degree, that’s a crock. Your priorities won’t come first for the present, and probably for a while.
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Cinderella at Jersey Girls State
Prompted By Leap Day
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Problem number one: I had no boyfriend and, although I was 17, I had never been on a date.
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Grandpa Max’s Nose
Prompted By Family Myths
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My parents, who had thought it wonderful that I had grandpa Max's eyes, said it was unfortunate that I had his nose, too. Ah, well, I thought, that's the genetic roll of the dice.
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Attracted to Anarchy
Prompted By Children's TV Shows
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While we ate tuna fish and Soupy hawked Jello, all kinds of chaos would happen.
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Not My Parents’ Retirement
Prompted By Retirement
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I had optimistic hopes about what retirement would be like, tempered with realism.
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A Conflicted Super Bowl Fan
Prompted By Super Bowl
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Things eventually calmed down ... but the next year I did not enter the football pool. Football was not yet a woman's domain.
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Life on the Move
Prompted By Moving Day
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There are many lessons I have learned ... Moves are a complex blend of stress, opportunity, and calamity.
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Aerograms, a Pen Pal, and a War
Prompted By Snail Mail
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I mostly remember taking my fountain pen and writing tiny, neat lines to cram the most onto the aerogram sheet.
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Rumors of his death …
Prompted By Tracking People Down
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The floor under my feet seemed to drop away, and a roaring began in my head. I must have replayed the message 10 times. Was someone playing a cruel joke?
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Tweet Tweet, Beep Beep
Prompted By Surprise!
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Could the one Rolling Stones concert I attended have done that much damage?
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In Praise of Invisible and Brave Women
Prompted By Ageism
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We were aware that it was bound to happen someday, but it sneaked up on us unexpectedly.
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Becoming a Modern Elder
Prompted By Ageism
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At first I did worry about what to wear (torn, skinny jeans look great on a 30-year-old but on me, not so much), and whether I knew enough about my smart phone.
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OK, Younger Generations
Prompted By Ageism
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Think of what we all could accomplish if all parties stopped eye rolling ... and lecturing ... and started working together.
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A Sweet Kennebunkport Crush
Prompted By The Crush
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I don't remember much from that week, except for Tony ... Every time his eyes connected with mine, my heart gave a squeeze and then a leap.
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Surviving a Workplace Bully
Prompted By Bullying
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I gasped when I realized that I was the perfect target for a workplace bully--a textbook case.
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Shakin’ in the Stacks
Prompted By Libraries
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In an instant, there was a rumble and a slight jerk, and then a slow roll, as I watched the stacks of books opposite me rise about a foot and a half, and gently fall, as if carried by ocean waves.
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Grandma Gets Lucky
Prompted By Hacks and Scams
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"She called my cell phone and thought I'd gone to Canada and ended up in jail."
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Redd’s Sledd and the Imp Do Donuts
Prompted By Potpourri (Writer's Choice)
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The cops stared, open-mouthed, at three 40-something bearded men and the motley trio of cars.
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Sitter of Last Resort
Prompted By Nannies and Babysitters
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When I came to the door, often the kids would greet me with "We don't want you, we want Karen!"
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Joe Defeats Google, Both Win
Prompted By Games People Play
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The engineers ultimately understood that the game kept Joe going, giving him energy and focus.
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Ten Miles in Ninety Minutes
Prompted By Road Rage
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Route 101 looked like something out of a Mad Max movie ...
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Loved the material, loved the students
Prompted By An Unforgettable Person
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Roussel was tall, elegant, very perceptive and demanding, but always kind and encouraging.
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Snacks and Naps
Prompted By Kindergarten
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We didn't have to sleep, but had to lie quietly for a time, which seemed like forever but couldn't have been more than 15 or 20 minutes.
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Fish in the Street, Snakes Under Glass
Prompted By Weather
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When I looked out the front door, I saw a hip-deep lake where my yard had been ...
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Back to the Garden
Prompted By Woodstock
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"We are stardust, we are golden, we are billion year old carbon."
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The Great British Heritage Mystery
Prompted By Genealogy
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Turns out I was "only" 94% eastern European Jewish ...
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A New Normal Neighborhood
Prompted By Neighbors
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Outside my bay window I can see a parade of saris, hijabs, turbans, baseball caps, blue jeans, you name it.
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Bored Among the Crowds
Prompted By Boredom
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This story is something of a confession: I have had memorable episodes of boredom when I've been around other people ...
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From Earth Dust to Moon Dust
Prompted By Moon Landing
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She kept saying in her combination of Yiddish and English, "I can't believe they are walking on the moon."
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Tomes Against the Tides
Prompted By Beach Reads
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I'll never forget the syllabus for that summer Russian literature class, which included War and Peace, Anna Karenina, The Brothers Karamazov, Crime and Punishment, plus some stories by Pushkin, Gogol, and Chekov.
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Mosquito Magnet
Prompted By Fireworks
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Every 4th of July I spent in New Jersey I became exceptionally popular. This one time a year, everyone wanted me to be part of their group ...
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Algorithms Never Lie
Prompted By Honesty
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What's scary is how computer algorithms, AI, and all our technology can take data that is perfectly true and turn it into "facts" that are frighteningly false.
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Cruising with the Flu (Hot, Hot, Hot)
Prompted By Honeymoon
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If I still was feverish, I couldn't tell once we went outside in the steamy Caribbean.
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My lunch with Omar Sharif
Prompted By First Dates
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He said, "I look like Omar Sharif." I thought, "...yeah, and I look like Michelle Pfeiffer."
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A Stroll Down Bloomfield Avenue
Prompted By Shopping Local
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United Cigar, run by the Cohen family, was packed with cigars and cigarettes, all types of magazine, and oh, the candy!
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Why Virginia Woolf Landed Me a Client
Prompted By College Majors as Career Gaugers
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The best college for you is the one that wants you to be there. ... choose the "wrong" major if it resonates with you.
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PE ABCs: Agony from Bombardment to C Stunts
Prompted By PE Pleasures and Perils
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The bottom of the gym suit consisted of … bloomers. Yes, ballooning from the waist and ending in tight elastic at the widest part of the thigh.
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Exam Week and Daiquiri Parties
Prompted By Exams
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As exam week progressed, we could hear clack, clackety-clack, ding!!, clack, clack, from the living area and dorm rooms in the entire wing, along with the crinkle of bags of potato chips and Cheetos.
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Driving Down the Shore
Prompted By Learning to Drive
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I knew I really wasn't supposed to take the car to the beach, but the temptation was too much.
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Shelters, Signs, and Sirens
Prompted By Cold War Coping
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The moaning whine infiltrated my nightmares for years. It became a reminder of a situation we could not ignore.
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Poetic Solace in Turbulent Times
Prompted By Poetry
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We poets are at all levels, from awesomely accomplished to beginner. I am somewhere in the middle.
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Quirky Neighbors in a Modest Place
Prompted By My First Apartment
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Add a land line phone and a black-and-white TV with a coat hanger for an antenna, and my décor was almost complete.
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Ta-ra-ra-boom-dee-ay
Prompted By The Draft & Vietnam
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It seemed like so much fun to me. The real story was much more sobering but also inspiring ...
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Childless with no regrets
Prompted By Parenthood
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I kept listening for the tick of the biological clock, but it never ticked.
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Some “thens” I don’t miss
Prompted By That Was Then, This Is Now
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I am nostalgic for many things but not all. Here is a quick take on some of the items from the 50s and 60s I don’t miss. Women’s clothing: Panty girdles, with their tourniquet-like grip on my thighs. I’ll spare folks the details of feminine hygiene products and accessories of the 60s, but suffice it…
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Hot turkey sandwiches at the Claremont Diner
Prompted By Restaurants
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The diner's booths were large enough to swallow a child as small as I was.
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The Kendo Mindset: Art Imitates Sports
Prompted By Sports
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For the first and only time, I saw humans flying, literally levitating around the room, so graceful that their bare feet never made a sound when they landed.
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The Year of Learning, Laughter, and Love
Prompted By A Year in the Life
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At first 1979 would not seem to be a year of love and laughter, with its gas lines, stagflation, and odd fashions. But in a subliminal moment, a butterfly might alight, even on dried grass or trash, and its perfect wings might wink at you for an instant before it vanishes. That’s how I feel…
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A wish that went full circle
Prompted By Be Careful What You Wish For
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Reluctantly I did a second career report, but my heart wasn't in it ... I began to wish to be a writer.
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Different in many ways
Prompted By Being Different
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This was my first big revelation--not only had I thought I was different, I really was different. Not only was I in a different physical package from the rest of the group, I had a unique personality profile.
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Do what you love, even if the money doesn’t follow
Prompted By The Road Not Taken
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[he] said that it took a special person to handle this job. The last woman left to become a nun. What an outrageous and fun way to start an interview!
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The Kvetching Diseases
Prompted By Illness
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Any woman reading this will identify the "yeah, sure lady" response to our describing a problem with our cars. The same can apply to our bodies.
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Smart Spies
Prompted By What We Watched
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One of our family favorites was the goofy spy spoof "Get Smart." Don Adams had a never-ending variety of clumsy antics as a Control agent fighting Chaos (and losing).
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Belonging
Prompted By Let's Put On a Show
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The characters I played were the ugly, the sad, the silly, the mad, the funny, the old, and the dead. Any role that was quirky attracted me.
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Day tripping to the Cape
Prompted By Summer of Love
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Who knew that wind chimes, sunlight through stained glass, and sandalwood could open up another world, one of peace and love?
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A summer “a la francaise”
Prompted By Camp
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Few boys, dreadful food, and gleepy green scum at the bottom of the lake--but the swimming, waterskiing, and guitar playing more than made up for it.
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Bypassing Ellis Island
Prompted By Immigrants
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How they made their way in this strange place to find my great grandfather, with no money and speaking no English, I have no idea.
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Salt Water, Lemon Ice, and No TV
Prompted By The Beach
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In the 1950s and 1960s, there was no television reception on Long Beach Island. Instead, we went out after dinner for lemon ice (made with real lemons and cane sugar), and played a round of miniature golf.
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How I almost went to the prom but got even instead
Prompted By Prom
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Jeff lived next door to my close friend Sherry, so I hung out at her house, trying to make myself visible without being too pushy. That’s what girls did in 1970. Boys did the asking to the prom.
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Grandma Rose
Prompted By Grandparents & Grandchildren
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She passed for 16 so she could work in a garment factory. She never saw the inside of a school room but had wanted to be a doctor. ... She was a woman grounded in tradition who never stopped looking to the future.
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Betting on the end
Prompted By The Draft & Vietnam
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... numbers corresponding to the days of the year were written on slips of paper and placed in plastic capsules, which were put into a deep glass jar (at the time I’d imagined a bingo cage).
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Oh!
Prompted By First Day of School
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Her mouth rounded as she faced us and said, "This is Oh--Oh--repeat after me:
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