Best Gift Ever

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Other than possibly a bicycle I got for Christmas when I was 11 or 12 years old, I cannot recall any gift I ever received as being so special that I’ve kept it, or remembered one so fondly that I’d consider it my best ever.  It might just be that I did not pay enough attention.  An opinion reinforced when I hear others reminisce fondly over the smallest of events from their own childhood.

Subsequently, I did not pay enough attention to my children’s childhood.  My excuse is, of course, that I was busy working to support my family.  But, it may instead be that I was still in whatever selfish cocoon prevented me from noticing what was going on around me as a child.

I am not generally considered the warm and fuzzy one in our family.  I used to joke that when I retired, I’d work as a greeter at Wal-Mart.  But the universal response to that was, “You don’t have the personality for it.”  Over my first 55 plus years, while I had not completely become a grumpy old man I must admit to being more than a little jaded.  Dealing with the day to day grind of being an adult, a career in law enforcement and the ill effects of being a political and news junkie had hardened me to sensitive feelings, left me unimpressed by, or not interested in, the little events of daily living and pessimistic about the future.

Then, our two children began giving us grandchildren.  The first pregnancy progressed without me paying much attention.  I let the women in the family go through all the rituals and anticipations of our first grandchild.  My only active participation consisted of driving my wife back and forth to San Jose over the several days of a long and twice delayed labor.  Finally, though, little Jack was born and when he and his mother were wheeled from the delivery room into the hallway where we had gathered to await his arrival, I was struck by lightning.  Suddenly and unexpectedly I became a Grandpa.  I was surprised, but the conversion was immediate, and it was complete.

Surely, never had a cuter, more handsome, smarter or more talented child ever been born.  Whenever I started telling others about him, along with showing the requisite innumerable snapshots of him, my wife had to remind me that I was doing to others what I had always complained about when others showed me theirs.

Five more grandchildren followed, spaced more or less a year apart, alternating between our children, so we now have a total of six.  This, of course, denies any other child, in the entire world, the ability to achieve a ranking of better than seventh in any category.

I am constantly surprised at the differences between them despite the fact that they are from the same parents and are being raised in the same environments.  Jack, now nearly 12, is quickly turning into a teenager on the road to becoming a man; iliana is 10, a tall, beautiful, loving girl doing well in school; Nick, 9 is independent, wanting to do everything for himself; Olivia, 8, is a bubbly, happy child and our fashionista; Zachary, 6, is overflowing with energy and playfulness; the last, Gabriella Grace, or GG, is 2 years old and busy learning and growing too fast. They all live within a few miles of us so we get a lot of interaction.

They are a joy to be around and I am thankful for the gifts they give me.  Like seeing the world anew through their eyes; for showing me how important the little things are; for their laughing at my stale jokes or corny antics, and being able to share their joy over the smallest of events like an unplanned stop for frozen yogurt.  So, my best gift ever is not a gift you unwrap, but one you watch unfold, as those precious children grow, learn, teach and amuse this old man.

Grandma Rose

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She passed for 16 so she could work in a garment factory. She never saw the inside of a school room but had wanted to be a doctor. ... She was a woman grounded in tradition who never stopped looking to the future.
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Santiago de Cuba — a special period vacation

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I’ve never been much of a tourist. From my days residing in the Haight-Ashbury to my thin-air existence in the Colorado Rockies, from my street musician days in North Beach to my current residence under the Hollywood sign (nope, not homeless), I’ve been an objet du tourism more frequently than I’ve been a tourist.

Nothin’ to see here, folks, move along.

Hollywood tourists never listen but the fact is, there has never been a Hollywood beneath the chimeric glitz. Only recently, a succession of mayors have moved to create an iconized Hollywoodland, complete with post-modern film academies, an Oscar theater, and fledgling actors costumed as superheroes.

Developers have begun digging holes in the ground and slinging concrete-and-glass towers skyward. Before that, Hollywood consisted of littered boulevards sporting cheesy, rundown storefronts full of costume jewelry, cheap suits, and memorabilia.

I often take my out-of-town friends to the flatlands of Hollywood, where low, windowless buildings shelter actors, directors, post-prod outfits, and technicians who spin the magic of Hollywood from green screens, pixels and props.

“Here it is, folks,” I say, sweeping an arm along the drab facade of a sound stage or food craft service parking lot. I feel bad for the tourists, vacationing in such a vacuum of glamour.

When I do travel, it’s usually to attend or present at a conference, scribble or teach or at a writers’ workshop, or tour with a band or theater company. Yes, those journeys often involve hard work, stress, and responsibility, but I like to vacation that way —it’s usually companionable (or conflict-ridden, or both) and you get to dig beneath the surface of a new, often-unique community and relate on a quality basis with the locals.

One such vacation still strikes a high note for me. In 1993, our theater company was invited to a Cuban theater festival during a time called el periodo especial. After the fall of the Soviet Union, Cuba was left to fend for itself. As much as the Cubans love American jazz, baseball, cars, and customs, they were forced to depend on trade relations with the cold and distant Soviet Union after the Eisenhower administration established el bloqueo, the blockade.

“Why would we want to trade with the Soviets 10,000 miles away,” Fidel complained, “when we could reach across 90 miles of Caribbean to our American neighbors?” Of course, Fidel was being purposely naïve. He knew why we cut Cuba out of our lives.

We had blockaded Cuba in 1960 after refusing to sell U.S. crude oil to the young revolutionary government. At that point, Cuba was forced to import Soviet crude to keep the island economy afloat and, when American-owned refineries refused to process the commie oil, Cuba was forced to nationalize Yank refineries.

For the U.S. government, it was okay for Cuba to break the mafia’s hold on Havana hookers, gambling, and nightclub fantasy, but — as we have seen more recently in the Middle East — you mess with Yankee petroleum and you mess with The Man… The Big Man…The Very Big Man.

For over thirty years, Cuba and the Soviet Union embraced, until 70 percent of the island’s economy depended on interaction with the Ruskies. When the Great Soviet Socialist Experiment fell to its knees and collapsed, Russia withdrew from Cuba precipitously and completely.

By 1993, Cuba had no petroleum, no paper, no ink or paint, no new vehicles, no manufactured goods. Had it not been for their national health system, they would have had no medicine. During the periodo especial, Cubans in the cities and the countryside often went hungry.

It was at that point that our theater company arrived in Santiago de Cuba for an international theater festival. We were very excited and honored. We were the first American artists to travel to Cuba for nearly two decades. We managed to fit a theatrical stage set into two duffel bags.

Five actors and six musicians stripped down to one piece of luggage and a musical instrument per artist and flew from Miami to Havana to Santiago de Cuba in a swanky Haitian Airlines 727 and a funky wreck of an Aeroflot jet. There were chickens in the overhead compartments and the white mist that ascended from the cracks in the floorboards was described by the implacable flight attendants as aire acondicionado. Many of us held hands during takeoff and landing. Who knows, perhaps some prayed.

In Santiago, we were welcomed with open arms by the Cubans who considered us heroes for defying the anti-Castro wrath of our government. At the time, before the Bush Administration shut every door to Cuban-American relations, we had a State Department license to travel to Cuba to perform, but the Cubans didn’t give a damn. We were heroes… unless we were spies.

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