My mother set tight limits on me when I was young. I was not trendy. I did not wear go-go boots, Mondrian dresses, Twiggy eyelashes. She didn’t let me pierce my ears when all my friends did. I did not have a blunt cut “Sassoon” hairstyle. I didn’t go ga-ga over the boy bands of the ’60s. Classical or Latin music was the currency of our household. My parents were never better together than when dancing the cha-cha.
I did love to play Hula Hoop in my driveway in Detroit and could swivel my hips, wearing my “pedal pushers”, with the best of them. That was about as “faddish” as I got as a kid.
In the summer of 1970, before heading off to Brandeis, I visited relatives in Cleveland and Toledo. My Aunt Stella was smitten with “Love Story” and had me read it while visiting her. I sobbed through it. The movie, starring Ali MacGraw and Ryan O’Neal, came out in late 1970, just as I came home for Christmas vacation from my first semester at Brandeis. Of course I went to see it and LOVED it. I flattered myself to think that perhaps, with my long dark hair, I looked a bit like Ali MacGraw (as if).
The scenes of the romantic leads frolicking in the snow near Harvard Square are iconic. She became famous for wearing a little crocheted hat. If I couldn’t be Ali, at least I could wear a hat like she wore.

While home for vacation, I ditched my big, puffy hat and got two hats, one little crocheted number that wasn’t very warm, and a warmer, wool version and a midi-coat like she wore, as you can see in the Featured photo in front of my Huntington Woods home (with snow flying to add to the effect). I don’t have any photos of the little crocheted hat, which had no warmth at all. I wore the one in the photo much more often. Both were inspired by Ali MacGraw, the tragic Cliffie from “Love Story”.
Can you hear the music swell? “Love means never having to say you’re sorry!” No, we didn’t have that poster on our dorm room wall. We had the Anne Frank one…”In spite of everything, I still believe people are really good at heart.” Boy, were we young.