Shakespeare’s Sonnet 116 and Other Poetry in my Life

The first poem I remember from my childhood is Henry Wadsworth Longfellow’s The Midnight Ride of Paul Revere. I memorized it when I was young to impress my father, who was a huge history buff. Not a great poem, but I still remember some of it:

Listen, my children, and you shall hear

Of the midnight ride of Paul Revere,

On the eighteenth of April, in Seventy-Five:

Hardly a man is now alive

Who remembers that famous day and year.

I could probably go on a bit longer from memory, but it has fourteen stanzas. That’s a lot for any kid to recite, even one desperate for her father’s approval.

I have to credit my high school English teacher, Miss Young, with instilling a love of poetry in me. I so clearly remember her assigning our class to memorize and recite a Shakespearean sonnet. I joined the others in moaning and complaining. What’s the point of doing that? Miss Young wisely replied that once we had learned it, we would have it forever. And she was right. I can still recite Sonnet 116. In fact, here it is from memory, some 57 years later:

Let me not to the marriage of true minds 

Admit impediments. Love is not love 

Which alters when it alteration finds, 

Or bends with the remover to remove. 

O no. It is an ever-fixed mark 

That looks on tempests and is never shaken; 

It is the star to every wandering bark, 

Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken. 

Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks 

Within his bending sickle’s compass come; 

Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks, 

But bears it out even to the edge of doom. 

If this be error and upon me proved, 

I never writ, nor no man ever loved.

Miss Young probably influenced me to major in English at the University of Michigan. So off I went with my head filled with the poetry I loved so much as a teen. I especially favored the Romantic poets. How could anyone not adore the beautiful imagery of William Wordsworth’s Daffodils:

I wandered lonely as a cloud
That floats on high o’er vales and hills,
When all at once I saw a crowd,
A host, of golden daffodils…

They flash upon that inward eye
Which is the bliss of solitude;
And then my heart with pleasure fills,
And dances with the daffodils.

Like Wordsworth’s, my heart also “leapt up when I beheld a rainbow in the sky.” I thrilled to William Blake’s “Tyger, Tyger burning bright” and was wowed by Lord Byron’s description of his love…

She walks in beauty, like the night
Of cloudless climes and starry skies;
And all that’s best of dark and bright
Meet in her aspect and her eyes;

Shelley’s Ozymandias was another beloved poem. I imagined the sand in which “half sunk, a shattered visage lies,” and the admired the wise sculptor whose hand mocked the great king Ozymandias by writing on the pedestal of his statue that we should look at all he created and despair. When I read the last lines of the poem, I pondered the transient nature of power and fame:

Of that colossal wreck, boundless and bare
The lone and level sands stretch far away.

Of course, English was a highly impractical major, so I also earned a teaching certificate to “fall back on,” as my mother recommended. And fall back on it I did, teaching high school English from 1967 to 1971. As you may recall, those were turbulent years in which students questioned the relevance of poets like Emily Dickenson, Robert Frost, E.E. Cummings, Langston Hughes, Walt Whitman, Elizabeth Barrett Browning, John Donne, Y.B. Yeats, T.S. Eliot, John Milton, Carl Sandburg, Chaucer, Robert Burns, Emily Bronte, and Dylan Thomas to name a few. The war in Vietnam was threatening to swallow up their lives, so no, my students didn’t care much about iambic pentameter and other rhythms or whether the rhyme schemes were ABBA or ABAB.  Figures of speech (remember alliteration, assonance, consonance, personification, metaphor, and simile?) or the imagery and meaning of those great poets bored them to tears. There was no way I could pull a Miss Young and make them memorize a Shakespearean sonnet. I couldn’t even get them to read one.

Being a newbie teacher, I concluded it would be easier to meet them where they were at and then try to teach them about the elements of poetry. Thus, we turned to song lyrics of Paul Simon, Leonard Cohen, Bob Dylan, and a host of other popular singer/songwriters of that era. I remember using Sounds of Silence extensively to teach my poetry unit. Yes, I know, not the same as a Shakespearean sonnet, but at least my students were willing to think and learn.

After I stopped teaching English and had three kids, my love for poetry morphed into Shel Silverstein, A.A. Milne, Robert Lewis Stevenson, Lewis Carrol, and assorted nursery rhymes. They loved Lear’s The Owl and the Pussy-Cat and I loved to read to my children. I defaulted to good old Paul Revere’s Midnight Ride as well. When the kids grew up, I transferred my love of children’s poetry to my career in early childhood education.

Then I retired and poetry dropped out of my life. I was writing a book, learning to blog, and reading more than ever. Just not poetry. But writing this prompted me to remember how much poetry meant to me over the years and to rediscover the poetry written in my heart.

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No FOMO for me!

Back before FOMO was a thing, it never dawned on me to do anything on “spring break.”

Now, what do we think about when we think about spring break anyway? Off to the beach or the slopes, depending–right? College or high school kids up to no good, shenanigans and high jinks that these days are both IG fodder and YouTubeable. It’s funny: my dad was a schoolteacher, so he also had spring breaks, but I don’t remember us “doing” anything or going anywhere. Selective memory? Maybe…

And what about college? As I’ve probably written here before, I went to work right after I graduated from high school so I could leave my parents’ house and begin living on my own, more or less. I never actually lived alone, but I did eventually move into a house with three other people and had my own room. So, once I left high school and joined the world of drudgery–er, work– I didn’t get a spring break. Or a summer vacation, come to think of it.

Even when I went back to college after a year of mind-numbing boredom as a telephone operator in San Francisco, I still worked. Spring break for me usually coincided with whatever student strike gained momentum on the UC Berkeley campus. Spring flowers brought tear gas and demonstrations, it seemed.

When my daughter went away to college, my mother-in-law gave her a wonderful gift: airfare to wherever she wanted to go during her four years far away from family. Knowing her to be the savvy person she was, I’m certain this generous grandmother expected her trailblazing granddaughter to choose to return to California each spring. However, my daughter made different choices at least a couple of times. And good for her!

During my college years, I burned the candle at both ends just trying to keep up with work and schoolwork. Luckily for me, I didn’t experience the all-too-common Fear of Missing Out that drives so many college kids (and others) today.

One thing I do remember about the advent of  a particular spring fifty years ago now:  the feeling that anything was possible when the trees blossomed and puppies appeared out of nowhere, when love (but not the tear gas) in the air gave rise to those intense feelings so eloquently written about by e.e.cummings:

here’s to opening and upward,to leaf and to sap
and to your(inmyarms flowering so new)
self whose eyes smell of the sound of rain

 

Southern Spring Breaks

In elementary and high school, spring breaks were rare. In the mountains of Western North Carolina there were enough snow days to wipe out the vacation days. My junior year we missed 30 days for snow. Sometimes we had Good Friday and Easter Monday off. Easter Monday was a southern thing. I have no idea why it was considered a necessary day for school closing. There were no trips to the beach like the ones in Where the Boys Are and other teen movies.
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