Being from an Italian Family was well…… a culinary journey and a eating endurance contest.

I grew up in a what was called as tenament in Fall River, Massachusetts.  If you do not know what that is, it is simply a duplex stacked one on the other.  We lived above my grandparents until I was around 7 years old.   I recall holidays as a  eat non-stop eating.   We would start at the table with a 5 course meal that lasted for hours on end.   And you were not excused from the table until the 5th course was finished. Naturally we had antipasti, pasta, soup before the entree arrived.  This was a typical Italian Thanksgiving, where the bird was not always front and center.

I lived upstairs.  In those days we had a ice box, with real block ice, a milkman and a bakery delivery.  One might think that was a luxury in todays terms.  Other than the icebox – I suppose it was.  Preparing for the holidays was quite an event,  I would come home from school, bolt up the back staircase, as the front staircase was off limits for me and was only used for company.  I would always  stop in to see what Grandma was cooking on my way up.   Normally she would be making pasta, rolling it out gently on her ironing board.  Did I say ironing board?  We all know what that is – right?  She would then gingerly transfer the freshly made pasta to a drying rack in preparation for a holiday meal.  Tomato  sauce with homemade Italian sausage was simmering with meatballs on the old stove.   This is a recipe I still maintain today, despite the preponderance  of jarred sauces that are available.

Dinner started at around 11:00 in the morning.   As a family,  we would stay  at the table for at least 3 to 4 hours as if glued to our chairs.  My Grandpa would kick things off perched  at the head of  the table with his traditional “salute”  and a brandy in one hand.  We talked about days gone by and summers at the Rhode Island cottage.   One course followed another, each better than the first.  Can you imagine on Thanksgiving Day starting with salami, cheese, olives, bread and more.  Then came the pasta with sausage and meatballs.  Finally,  the turkey and fixings and then salad. But who had room?   We have not even got to dessert!   Gronk!   Finally dessert – or I should say desserts.  Grandma would make italian fried cookies coated with powdered sugar, cakes and other goodies.

After barely having the energy to move to the living room, we would then be entertained my Grandpa, who was amusing.  He loved Opera.  His vocal range was amazing.  He would don hats, both male and female and sing the parts from the famous Opera ”Pagliacci” (meaning “Clowns”) is an Italian opera in a prologue and two acts, with music and libretto by Ruggero Leoncavallo. It is the only Leoncavallo opera that is still widely performed. It is often staged by opera companies as a double bill with ”Cavalleria rusticana” by Mascagni, known as ”Cav and Pag”.  His talent along with his brandy made for a memorable completion to the feast in which the brandy and the wine went down the drain per Grandma.

I now understand why I was a “pudgy” kid.

29 November 2015 – What I have learned so far;

•      This adventure started with my purchase of a Success magazine with Tim Ferris on the cover. Since I had read the 4 Hour Work Week, I was familiar with Tim Ferris and loved his attitude for life. I discovered a CD included with the magazine and listened to an interview with Tim. In it he stated that he uses 90-day adventures for goal setting, rather have plans for years. I made a decision that I would take a 90-day adventure to discover what my next goal in life would be.
•       Life can be seen in short spurts of 90 days to accomplish what Tim Ferris calls an Adventure Plan. Tim says that we can accomplish a focused goal in 90 days that may in fact generate multiple spin-off goals as a result. He feels technology is changing so fast that we cannot establish 3-5 year goals with any certainty. He suggests that we can complete a new language or anything we want in ninety days.
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•       My best friend, Pankaj P Chand, his fabulous wife, Rose, and their incredible son Arun took time to spend with me while on a seminar for communicating with Autistic children. As always I learn so much from all three of them. Pankaj had the N21 book which I purchased as soon as I could. Jim Muncy has had an impact on my life. It’s as Charlie Tremendous Jones says, “You will be the same person five years from now, except for the books you read and the people you meet, and the audio programs and books you consume.
•       Time management is one of the keys to success, without a doubt. Jim Muncy, in his book Time Basics, stresses that we only need a process for time management, and that process should be designed by us, however, we need to establish the basics first to know why we are doing what we are doing. He established hard and soft time, discretionary time, and flexibility. He suggests using a marble to track time.
•       Barbara Frederickson, in her book Positivity, emphasises the importance in goal setting and accomplishment with the most open, creative mind possible. In order to move toward that result, we must improve our positivity ratio. This has scientifically been shown to improve goal setting and the process, as well as increasing the speed at which goals may be achieved. Although time commitment is required, the important improvement is well worth the effort
•      Brian Tracy ties it all together into a package that focuses on self-esteem as the key factor in my success. Improving myself on the inside will greatly improve the results I want to see on the outside. Additionally, Brian addresses the purposes in life that we need to determine in advance in order to attach the emotion necessary to rapidly achieve the personal and financial success I/we are looking for.
•      Combining all these elements that I am studying at present, my goal is to tease out of myself, over the next, less than ninety days, my purpose, clearly stated, present tense, for each life goal area, a process for achieving my goals, including timelines, and activity goals to be charted daily along with time management measurements and deadlines. I will remain flexible regarding the timeline, and inflexible in accomplishing the next 90-day Adventure Plan