A Lifetime of Hair by
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Prompted By Hair

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It was spring, 1962. This is where it started.

When she started to see gray hairs appear as she sat at stoplights and looked in the rear view mirror, she saw the future and started pulling the stray grays out.

“What the hell happened to your hair?” her father said as the teenage girl came down the stairs to meet her new date.

She didn’t reply, but she felt her chest tighten. After all, what are you supposed to say to that? She thought she looked pretty terrific. And she wanted to look great for this first date. She’d spent the afternoon and all her baby sitting money in the beauty salon.

Her mother came out of the kitchen wiping her hands on her apron, having not heard the initial interchange. “How do you like Emily’s hair, Herb?”

“Mom…” Emily said, in that voice meant to shut her up. Someone, presumably her date, knocked on the door. Nobody moved to answer it. Her father left the room to watch the ballgame, shaking his head in what looked to Emily like disgust.

“Do I really look that bad?” she asked her mother after her father left the room, eyes tearing up.

“You look fine,” her mother said, though she had a hard time looking at this girl who, until that afternoon, had had a head full of honey colored curls and now had stick-straight hair. “Did he say something?” She looked toward her husband.

The girl nodded, tears spilling. The knock came again.

“Don’t cry,” her mother said. “It’s not about your hair. It’s about your date. You know your father doesn’t want you to grow up. It makes him feel old. You look fine. Go wash your face. I’ll answer the door.”

The date was a dud, but the girl grew up and met a lot of boys. Most of them never noticed her hair. Her girlfriends, however, and her mother, always noticed. It was a kind of a secret handshake they all shared when they first saw one another. “Oh, Emily! I love your hair!” or “Samantha! You got a great cut!” or “Peggy! I love you–a redhead!” Complimenting each other’s hair was the password to their friendship. If you’d messed up in some other way, say you didn’t like the dinner they’d prepared, or you’d maybe made a snarky remark about one of their boyfriends, you could always fix it with a good hair comment.

Emily’s hair forever remained the most important part of her appearance. In college she rolled it on orange juice cans every night before bed to try to relax the curl. To no avail. Humidity was its enemy.

By the 1970s she had come to terms with her curls; had come to love them, actually, and worn them loose in a ‘shag’ for years.

In the 1990s she found a new hairstylist who asked her how committed she was to the 1970s. Emily surrendered. He cut her hair very short to make it spiky using ‘product’ but as soon as it grew a fraction of an inch, the curl was too heavy to spike.

When she started to see gray hairs appear as she sat at stoplights and looked in the rear view mirror, she saw the future and started pulling the stray grays out. But eventually there were too many. As it began to turn white, she dyed it black and white and had to change her whole wardrobe, which had forever been autumn colors.

As gravity wrinkled her skin beyond the help of moisturizers and her breasts began to sag, she realized her hair was the only thing she could really change. At 72, she looked in the mirror and refused to see her mother. She put purple, blue and apple green in her otherwise white curls. People stopped her on the street, telling her they loved her hair. Her grandsons thought she was cool. The boys, meanwhile, spent a lot of time in front of the mirror, fussing with their own hair. The eight year old had his father shave SF Giants into the back of his hair. The eleven year old grew his hair to shoulder length like his favorite baseball player. And the oldest had a pompadour. Her father and mother had gotten old and died. They’d each had a head full of wild white hair.

The last thing her mother had said to her was, “Emily. I like your hair like that.”

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Tags: hair
Characterizations: been there, funny, right on!, well written

Comments

  1. I love this story, Penny…so much of what you wrote resonates! Hair angst…the constant awareness of our hair, the endless search for the “right” style, but, thankfully, finally being comfortable with however we choose to wear it. Welcome to Retrospect!

  2. Suzy says:

    Penny, I love this! So true for me, certainly, that my hair has always been the most important part of my appearance. And the orange juice cans, and coming to terms with the curls. And the comments from one’s mother. You were writing my life! Welcome to Retrospect!

  3. Laurie Levy says:

    Love this story, Penny. So true about hair and our obsession with it. When I was young, my mom did the Toni home perm thing resulting in me looking like Clarabell the clown. Like you, I tried everything to be straight and then curly and back to straight (mine is wavy). And the color thing… don’t get me started. Welcome to Retrospect!

  4. Marian says:

    Welcome to Retrospect, Penny. This story really applies. I tried the orange juice cans and even ironed my hair once. After I had mononucleosis in college, my hair went from very curly to mildly wavy, and of course now, with thin light gray hair, I miss those curls. I’ve been tempted to try turquoise or green highlights and might do just that!

  5. Brava Penny, welcome to Retro!

    For us lady Boomers in this time of Covid, to dye or not to dye may really mean, do I do it myself, or risk a masked hour at the hairdresser, or do I bite the bullet and let Mother Nature have her way?

    A brunette all my life, I’m now known around the house as The Silver Streak!

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