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Over the years I’ve found myself in the same embarrassing situation at least three times,  most recently this past December when we got a wedding invitation from friends.

Their son was to be married on New Year’s Eve at a lovely Greenwich, Connecticut hotel,  so I knew it would be a gala affair.   And sure enough there at the bottom of the elegantly engraved invitation were the words BLACK TIE OPTIONAL.

My husband Danny hadn’t worn his tux in a few years and so I urged him to try it on,  and happily it still fit.   Then I checked the wedding registry and ordered a gift,   booked a room at the Greenwich hotel,  and called the cat sitter.

After deciding which of my cocktail dresses I would wear –  my black one or my other black one – we were all set for the big night.  Then I remembered  two out-of-town weddings we attended in the past.

The first was many years ago when my cousin Kathy was to be married in the lovely garden of her parents’  Revolutionary-era house in Northampton, Massachusetts.

Getting ready for the car trip I packed our suitcase,  gathered all we needed for our year-old toddler,   and put Danny’s suit and my dress in a garment bag.  I hung the garment bag in the front closet near our apartment door.

Packing the car with the suitcase,  the toddler,  and all the requisite snacks and toys,  we forgot – you guessed it –  the garment bag.    Terribly embarrassed,   we both went to the wedding in jeans.

Then years later we were getting ready for another out-of-town wedding.  The daughter of friends was to be married at a lovely venue – a vineyard on Long Island’s North Fork.

This time I happened to zip Danny’s suit in one garment bag and my outfit in another,  hung them both in the front closet,  and to remind us I taped a big note to the apartment door that said TAKE GARMENT BAGS FROM CLOSET !!!

When we got to Long Island a few hours later and Danny was unloading the car,  we realized instead of taking both garment bags from the closet,  he had taken only one and by chance it was his.  So while Danny wore his suit to the wedding,  much to my chagrin  I wore jeans once again.

Thus when we got the recent New Year’s Eve invite,  I was determined this time to play it safe.   I zipped both Danny’s tux and my cocktail dress in one garment bag,  and carried it down to the car myself.

Once in our hotel room I unzipped the garment bag and hung our two wedding outfits in the closet.  Later when we were dressing for the big night I heard my husband say,  “Where are my pants?”

Sure enough there on the hanger was his tux jacket,  but under it – no pants!   And so I wore my dress to that wedding and Danny wore black tie –  but only from the waist up,  down below he was in brown corduroy.   After all the invitation did say BLACK TIE OPTIONAL!

POSTSCRIPT

Despite that embarrassing sartorial slip,  we had a lovely time at the wedding.   Back in the hotel room I was hanging up my dress when I noticed something lying on the closet floor.   Apparently hours earlier when I hung Danny’s tux in the closet,  his pants had slipped off the hanger.

I sure hope our next wedding invitation says COME AS YOU ARE.

Dana Susan Lehrman

 

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Comments

  1. Betsy Pfau says:

    Good one, Dana! Yes, very embarrassing to not be dressed appropriately for a fancy wedding because you left the clothing behind! Haven’t done that one yet, tho my dad left his suitcase behind when we drove east to bring my brother to Brandeis. We met up with local friends who insisted on taking us all to Anthony’s Pier 4 (at the time, in 1965, the nicest restaurant in Boston) for dinner. Funny photos of my dad, in a jacket and bow tie he borrowed from friend Murray. But not nearly the same, but I feel your pain.

    • Thanx Betsy!
      My friend whose daughter was married on Long Island remembers when Danny and I arrived at the motel where we were all staying. She heard me scream from the parking lot when I realized my dress wasn’t in the car, and she and several other guests came running thinking who knows what had happened!

      That was 7 years ago and I think by now the young couple have forgiven me for my inelegant appearance at their wedding as they now have two kids to worry about instead!

  2. Well, I think I’ll just borrow that “excuse” the next time I have nothing to wear to a fancy event, and, it makes a great topic for small talk. Seriously, though (although I might have been serious), I can imagine your distress not once, not twice, but three times! Remember come-as-you-are parties? I don’t know about you, but somehow we always ended up in the cutest outfits, surely not as we were. Thanks for another fun (?) story, Dee! As embarrassing as it all might have been, you made me smile in the end.

  3. Marian says:

    You should be off the hook, Dana, at least for the first incident, with a one-year-old at the time. It’s a miracle you could have remembered anything. I guess at the time people took their attire a lot more seriously than now. In California, it’s been so “anything goes” for a really long time. My father said he wouldn’t wear a tux at my wedding, which was fine, because it took place in the morning. As you say, all bets are off with Zoom, although I put on earrings sometimes because they show on the screen.

  4. Suzy says:

    Dana, I just loved this story, especially because it happened to you THREE TIMES! You also cracked me up with your cocktail dresses – the black one or the other black one – although I thought you weren’t supposed to wear black to a wedding. Isn’t that what Emily Post says? Anyway, sounds like you still had a good time at all three weddings, regardless of attire, and as Barb says, it sounds like a great excuse for not dressing up for a fancy event (although it would only work for out-of-town events). Thanks for a good laugh this morning!

  5. Laurie Levy says:

    I love this story, Dana. We were invited to a wedding which I thought said “Black tie optional” on the bottom. The day before as we were packing to go to Cleveland, I noticed it was “black tie.” Who has such a formal affair in Cleveland? My husband hadn’t worn his tux since our youngest daughter’s wedding many years prior and the pants “fit” but were very uncomfortable. Our daughter wisely suggested he wear black work pants, and no one was the wiser. I think jeans should be the attire for all weddings (LOL)!

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