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“In form and feature, face and limb.” Sitting at the dining table in the house where I was raised, I recited this opening line from a text I had printed out. Continuing, I read, “I grew so like my brother…”  Mom, seated around the corner of the table, picked it up from there, but without a script: “That folks got taking me for him. And each for one another.”

As most language was eluding her, it was wonderful that she was able to profit from the memorization exercises of her childhood.

It was my turn again. “It puzzled all our kith and kin,” I enunciated. Mom’s caregiver, Willa, listened from the kitchen behind me. I continued, “It reached an awful pitch.” Then it was mom’s turn again: “For one of us was born a twin, yet not a soul knew which.”

This interactive duet continued through the final lines of this 19th century doggerel. Mom was chuckling gleefully as she rushed out the final phrases.

Me: In short, year after year, the same absurd mistakes went on.

Mom: And when I died–the neighbors came and buried brother John![1]

Mom was 96, living in the family home with round-the-clock caregivers. This woman who was no longer able to care for her basic needs had once upon a time been the darling of all her high school teachers and college professors. She was Editor-in-Chief of her Yearbook, a student of Latin for eight years, and a daily beat reporter for the Toledo (Ohio) Times.  She married a soldier; he studied Law, and they started a family. Much later, she would be the coordinator of volunteers in the Indianapolis region for the 1968 Eugene McCarthy Presidential campaign.  And when the kids were grown, she would go back to school for a teaching license and spend two decades as a special educator. But now her physical coordination and mental functioning were impaired by Parkinson’s disease. Her communication was reduced to smiling, nodding, and an occasional word or two. Two months later she would die.

I was visiting from out of state and didn’t see her much at this stage, but Willa saw her daily, and was amazed and inspired to hear mom speak so many coherent words as we recited the poem together. Mom had memorized “The Twins” when she was around 12 years old and never forgot it.  It seemed a source of joy for her to be able to participate fully in this recitation. One might be tempted to denigrate what she was doing as “just memorized words and phrases,” not real communication. But poetry and verse have always been viewed as a higher form of language, not a lower form. As most language was eluding her, I think it was wonderful that she was able to profit from the memorization exercises of her childhood.

Mom and dad grew up in the 1920s and 30s when memorizing poems was central to the pedagogy of the schools. My dad not only retained poems from his childhood and adolescence but also added many more in college, because he attended the Northwestern University School of Speech—having aspired to become an actor before he went into the Army in 1942. It seemed he never forgot a single one of them.

Here is the first half of a ditty he was fond of reciting and that many of us learned, over the years, through osmosis:

Betty Botter bought some butter
But she said, “the butter’s bitter,
If I put it in my batter
It will make my batter bitter,
But a bit of better butter
Will make my bitter batter better.”[2]

Memorization wasn’t always something the kids in our household took on voluntarily. My parents insisted from a young age that we practice these skills—perhaps because they knew that schools weren’t doing much of it anymore, or perhaps just because of the pleasure they knew one could get from recalling words by heart—especially words that were rhyming, poetic, rhythmic, or funny. The three oldest of us kids (two more would arrive after a hiatus) had to learn and were called on to recite this one, at least a few dozen times each over a span of several years:

The wind one morning sprang up from sleep

Saying now for a frolic, now for a leap

Now for a madcap galloping chase

I make a commotion in every place!

That’s all we ever knew there was to that poem. The Web has allowed me to investigate and learn that “The Wind in a Frolic” was composed by William Howitt, who died in 1879, and that these lines we memorized and recited were just the first four of a 51-line work.

It wasn’t only classical poetry that members of my family committed to memory. As a young sports fan, I remember learning from dad about the “Four Horsemen of Notre Dame.” Before dad was even old enough to follow sports, a famed sportswriter, Grantland Rice, had coined this metaphor to celebrate the backfield of the legendary Fighting Irish football team. I somehow got the impression from Dad that it was important to know and remember their names. He never did ask me to recite them, but to the end of his life a few years ago, I would still check periodically to see if I could name them, just in case he ever asked. Now my heart aches a bit as I am not sure for whom I might ever perform this feat of recall. But here they are, for the random reader: Miller, Crowley, Leyden, and Stuhldreher. They stopped thrilling college football fans a century ago. But they thrill me each time they faithfully arrive at my mental beckoning. (I apologize if I am spelling any of them incorrectly. Out of pride, I am not checking the Web for accuracy.)

Learning and retelling stories—almost word for word–was also part of the lattice work of our family communication. Dad told and retold hundreds of times over the generations different versions of an invented story “about a boy named Jim,” and you had to listen carefully: The stories started out the same but there were small but significant changes in the plot and in the denouement.

Mom used to tell us stories about a little Tom Thumb-sized Jewish boy named K’tonton. Only now am I learning that these stories were published when Mom was a young adolescent, in a volume called The Adventures of K’tonton (1935) by Sadie Rose Weilerstein.  We never owned a copy of the book, and in my memory Mom integrated us kids into the stories. For certain, when she was telling a K’tonton story to our son Jacob in 2004, he became a character in the narrative. Like the musical product of a good jazz player, it seems her versions of the stories were improvisations responsive to the audience and loosely based on the original narratives.

Mom and dad enjoyed attacking crossword puzzles during their final decades together. But their practice of holding onto memorized words over many decades—in the form of poems, stories, song lyrics, and other artifacts—was the fertilizer that most powerfully sustained their focus and their connection to others.

“The wind one morning, sprang up from sleep, saying now for a frolic, now for a leap…”

 

 

 

 

 

[1] “The Twins” by Henry Sambrooke Leigh. Retrieved from the Web 9/21/2020 at https://www.poetrynook.com/poem/twins-4

[2] Retrieved from the Web 9/21/2020 at https://www.mamalisa.com/?t=es&p=1376

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Dale Borman Fink retired in 2020 from Massachusetts College of Liberal Arts in North Adams, MA, where he taught courses related to research methods, early childhood education, special education, and children’s literature. Prior to that he was involved in childcare, after-school care, and support for the families of children with disabilities. Among his books are Making a Place for Kids with Disabilities (2000) Control the Climate, Not the Children: Discipline in School Age Care (1995), and a children’s book, Mr. Silver and Mrs. Gold (1980). In 2018, he edited a volume of his father's recollections, called SHOPKEEPER'S SON.

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Tags: poetry, verse, schooling, pedagogy, learning by heart, Four Horsemen of Notre Dame
Characterizations: moving, well written

Comments

  1. Suzy says:

    Dale, thank you so much for this story! Having watched someone deteriorate from Parkinson’s, I found this especially touching. I love that your mother could still retrieve the poetry she had memorized when almost everything else was gone.

    We had Poetry as a prompt last year, and I wrote a story called “Poetry in Motion” about a poem we memorized in 8th grade, and how everyone in the class can still recite it 55 years later.

  2. Dale, I’m moved not only by your tender story but by the fact that you shared your feat of recall with us here. It felt spontaneous and personal, and I hope it eased your heartache a tiny bit.

    • i’m not sure anything I wrote was “spontaneous,” since I wrote more than one draft. But I’m glad it came across that way, and in any case it was definitely personal. And yes, getting to tell something that’s been inside all these years did ease my heartache. Thanks!

  3. Dale, thanx for sharing another wonderful story!
    Yes indeed generations ago students memorized poems and lines that they never forgot
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    My mom would recite, ” He drew a circle to shut me out, Heretic, rebel a thing to flout. But love and I had the wit to win, We drew a circle and took him in” (Edwin Markham)

    My dad recited Shakespeare but also so many humorous poems that delighted us as kids. , “A boy stood on a burning deck, His feet were full of blisters. He tore his pants on a rusty nail, And now he wears his sister’s”.

    My mom died a few years after my dad, and at her funeral I recited something I heard from them as a child.

    “Stop, stop pretty water said Mary one day, To a bright happy brook that was running away. You run of so fast I wish you would stay, My boat and my flowers you carry away.”
    I changed Mary to Dana, , and changed the last line to “My father and mother you’ve carried away.” , and I smiled through my tears.

    • Dana, thanks for such a deeply felt response. The poem you recited and adapted as part of your eulogy sounds very much like something I heard from Mom! And it sounds as though both of your parents remembered so many great rhyming ditties–especially the funny ones! That was my heritage as well.

  4. Marian says:

    We definitely have lost something by not memorizing poems and stories like “they used to.” Although I did have to recite “Listen my children and you shall hear of the midnight ride of Paul Revere” in elementary school. The last time I had to recite was in a Chaucer class at college, where the professor assessed our middle English pronunciation of parts of the Canterbury tales. Lovely story, Dale, great tribute to your parents, and appreciate the memories of memorization.

  5. Laurie Levy says:

    What an interesting take on this prompt, Dale. You are so right that things memorized stay with us and recalling and reciting them are excellent exercise for the brain. I can still recite “The Midnight Ride of Paul Revere,” which I memorized to impress my father, who was a history buff. Thanks for sharing this.

  6. Betsy Pfau says:

    This is a moving, deeply felt story, Dale. As the old faithful on Retro know, I am a Kennedy freak. A story I remember about matriarch Rose was that she could do all the verses of “The Midnight Ride of Paul Revere” her whole, long life (much like Laurie comments above).

    As a theatre major, I had to memorize dialogue, and for speech class, had to do both contemporary and classical monologues. Of course I did one from “Romeo and Juliet” (another one of my passions). I find song lyrics from songs I learned long ago stay with me, but not ones that I try to learn now. That is what happens as we age. All are forms of poetry. I just loved your story.

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