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Prompted By Reconnecting

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1997: Met great guy through a personal ad, had three wonderful dates. Then, nothing …

1999: Friends first, then deep romance. 2000: Happiest time ever. 2001: He prefers time with (female) housemate, "trusted old friend."

18 months later: Reconnected. He found my lost phone number in his computer bag (?).

1999: Friends first, then deep romance.

2000: Happiest time ever.

2001: He prefers time with (female) housemate, “trusted old friend.”

9/11/2001: National calamity, my dad has cancer, no support from my lover, relationship over, grieving everything.

2003 and 2004: Tenuous connection; get phone calls on holidays and my birthday. “Trusted old friend” dumps her boyfriend.

2005: Reconnection, says he married “trusted old friend.” They move to Maui.

2006 and on: Connection broken.

2021: Found his name online, he’s moved to Davis, continuing mystery.


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I have recently retired from a marketing and technical writing and editing career and am thoroughly enjoying writing for myself and others.

Characterizations: funny, well written


  1. Betsy Pfau says:

    Wow, I love the mystery of this RetroFlash, Marian. Will he, won’t he? Is he worth it? Lost you phone number in his gym bag – really? Please keep us posted if he contacts you.

    • Marian says:

      Will do, Betsy. This relationship was complex, and there was a lot of “blarney” as it turned out, that I haven’t even mentioned in this tiny RetroFlash. It was quite a ride but the roller coaster wasn’t worth it in the end. No mention of the wife in regard to Davis, which is the current mystery.

  2. Suzy says:

    Marian, this RetroFlash is so mysterious, I really wish you had written a full-length story. I want to know so much more. 1999, how did you move from friends to deep romance? 2000, your happiest time ever? Reconnection in 2005 even though he married someone else? These snippets are just too tantalizing!

    • Marian says:

      There was so much detail and complexity, Suzy, that when I tried to write the full-on story it just wasn’t coming out right … it would have taken a short novel. I had to change all the real names because, among other things, this guy was a world-class computer hacker and I didn’t want to risk identifying him. On New Years Eve 1999 my previous man friend dumped me, and I ended up going to this guy’s house for a singles party and that’s when the romance began. Everything was then terrific until it wasn’t, as you can tell.

  3. Laurie Levy says:

    I think the RetroFlash is a perfect way to tell this story of numerous break-ups and reconnections. Not all stories end up wrapped in a bow… Like the continuing mystery.

    • Marian says:

      Thanks, Laurie. There were so many mysteries along the way that I didn’t detail here that would take a lot of explanation. Maybe it’s fitting that the latest is why he left Maui only to end up in Davis, and more surprising, that his wife wasn’t mentioned in relation to Davis. Who-all knows?

  4. Usually I would say that more sleuthing is in order, but maybe it’s better to let this sleeping dog lie.

  5. John Shutkin says:

    Great story, Marian, and ideal use (IMHO) of RetroFlash, where brevity can so well conjure up mystery.

    I’m anxiously waiting for the next RetroFlash chapter and all its twists and turns. That said, as I don’t have to tell you, be wary of this unreliable guy.

  6. Ah Marian, a great Retroflash about the old battle-of-the-sexes-crap-shoot!
    Keep us posted!

  7. As Yogi Berra would say, it ain’t over ’til it’s over. Looking forward to subsequent updates.

  8. Ah, yes, the roller coaster ride….I remember it well. Wouldn’t wish it undone, but wouldn’t want to do it again. As John said, be wary, my friend. XO

  9. I find the roller coaster becomes less attractive, the farther we get from adolescence! Please, just keep him on a shelf but turn it into some more pulp fiction which I am sure could command quite an audience.
    ps. Very cool how you carved or jigsawed a missing puzzle piece out of that red-hot heart.

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