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A spring break trip to the zoo in Chicago

As a child, I don’t remember my family ever taking a spring vacation. Because we always took driving trips, generally to places where we had relatives to house us, a spring trip to a warm climate was not in our wheelhouse. Back in the day when I attended the University of Michigan, the school year ended in April. Because of the school’s calendar and a lack of funds, I have no memory of taking a wild college spring break either.

For my granddaughter with significant disabilities, spring break will literally break her, along with the rest of us.

We rarely took spring vacations with our own children. Our family trip was always in August, the traditional times for shrinks to travel, so my main memory of spring break as a parent was miserable Chicago weather and not much to do. One of my daughters did take a spring break vacation in college that likely resembled the photo associated with this prompt, but that was an anomaly in my family. In the present, for my children and especially for my grandchildren, spring break is unfortunately anything but fun.

As an educator, at least I didn’t have to go to work during my kids’ spring breaks. Not true for my children. In their families, both parents work outside the home and they have no paid vacation time that coincides with their children’s spring breaks. Instead of taking a memory-filled vacation, life becomes a scramble to come up with childcare. For folks like them who are unable to travel to warmer climes, spring break activities around home are few and far between. People they rely on for childcare are often away, after school activities cease, and it is challenging to find things to do when the temperatures range in the thirties to forties and it rains most days.

You can always dye easter eggs

Even worse, however, is what spring break does to families with children who have special needs. One of my granddaughters attends a school for students with learning disabilities. When asked to make a list of “fun things to do over spring break,” hers included:

  • Chill
  • Listen to my music
  • Do laundry
  • Go to Gramma and Grampa’s house
  • Eat pizza
  • Make brownies
  • Take the dog for a walk
  • Teach the dog how to sit (that will never happen)
  • Swim (on the weekend when one of her parents can take her)

Sounds like a roaring good time.

For another of my granddaughters with significant disabilities, spring break will literally break her, along with the rest of us. She is only happy when her life is predictable and consistent. Like many kids on the autism spectrum, she needs school and the structure it provides. Days off are a disaster, so a whole week plus two weekends with nothing to do spell misery for her and chaos for her family. For my granddaughter’s parents, who need to balance the demands of work with their daughter’s need for continuity, supervision, and specialized programming, getting through spring break is like assembling a tough jigsaw puzzle. In order for them to get any work done, they have to hire behavioral therapists and teachers from her school to spend some time with her at home. After paying for this, they probably earn negative income, but at least they won’t lose their jobs.

Of the many challenges that families of children with significant special needs confront, school vacations may be one of the most difficult. Like mine, these families are now counting the days until spring break ends and life becomes more stable and productive for their kids. As spring break progresses, I know my granddaughter’s behavior will become increasingly challenging. When she returns to school, she will have to relearn how to do school.

Watching my granddaughter and her family struggle to get by this spring break is painful. Life has created so many obstacles for their child. Having a schedule that is consistent and comprehensible to her would go a long way to ensuring her happiness and her ability to learn as much as possible.

Of course, as an educator I understand the importance of spring break for teachers. Working with children is exhausting, and teachers need time to recharge their batteries. Most of them also have their own children to manage during school vacations. There is no practical solution to this. For lucky families, spring break is an opportunity to spend special time with their kids. But for many, it is a challenge for parents to find coverage for their children so they can work. And for families of students with disabilities, there is an added layer of stress.

So no, there will not be any wild parties or funny spring break stories for my family. It will be more like an episode of Survivor minus the tropical climate, and hopefully no one will be voted off the island.

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Tags: spring break, children with disabilities, special needs, working parents
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Comments

  1. Betsy Pfau says:

    Good one, Laurie. As you will read, I never took a wild spring break either, and my story is about one family vacation while I was in college, but I also have a child on the autism spectrum, though it sounds like not as far along the spectrum as your grandchild. While he needed structure, he also needed (and still needs) downtime of his own to do as he pleases to “recharge” his batteries, which is always playing on, or programming his computer or playing video games, sometimes with a friend. Sometimes I would take him to a museum too. He used to like that in short bursts. I have just returned from visiting her (she is transgender) and we spent last Sunday at a very good computer history museum in Mountain View. But she was done looking long before my husband was, so there was too much waiting for her taste. She is now almost 30 and works for a hot tech company in San Francisco.

    • Laurie Levy says:

      Betsy, was glad to read your child on the autistic spectrum, despite all of the challenges of that and being transgender, is able to do meaningful work. That’s quite an achievement. Of my twin granddaughters on the spectrum, we dream that one will have a happy and meaningful life but fear the other’s journey will be so challenging. This (almost over) spring break, like all school vacations, was a disaster for her. Thanks for understanding.

  2. Suzy says:

    Wow, Laurie, sorry to hear that your spring breaks have been “anything but fun.” Sounds like you do a great job of entertaining the grandchildren though. I love that your granddaughter’s list of fun things to do included Go to Gramma and Grampa’s house. On “Teach the dog how to sit,” did she add “that will never happen” or was that your editorial comment? It’s funnier, of course, if she wrote it, but I’m guessing it was you.

    • Laurie Levy says:

      It’s Saturday so we made it. My granddaughter who loves to hang out with me did. I even made the ultimate sacrifice and took her to see the new Dumbo. And yes, that was my editorial comment. The recently adopted dog won’t come when called, let alone sit. Think she will need a trainer more experienced than my granddaughter.

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