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When my mom retired she and my dad moved out of the city and bought a charming little house two blocks from the beach in the Rockaways where they had both grown up and first met.  (See Still Life)

But my dad wasn’t ready to retire himself,  he always said that he wanted to die  “with his boots on.”   And so he hung out his shingle,  outfitted the basement of the new house as a medical office,    and soon had a small but thriving new practice.

Visiting my folks in their new house one day,   I was surprised to find a municipal sanitation truck parked in their driveway.   My dad called out  to introduce me to Robert,  the young man who was having a beer with him on the porch.    Robert it seems was a sanitarian department driver who also did odd jobs in the neighborhood.   Later my folks told me Robert was a bit slow of wit,  but with a kind heart and a gentle disposition,   and I soon observed the fondness he and my parents had for one another.

My parents spent their last years in that house,  and often when visiting I’d find Robert helping them with minor house repairs  and projects,   and at least once I remember,   to my young son’s great delight,  Robert let him ride with him up in the truck.

Then in his 80s my dad’s health began to decline,  and just as he wished,  he died  “with his boots on.”    (See Saying Farewell to a Special Guy)

After my dad’s funeral I was at the house with my mother and my sister welcoming friends and neighbors as they arrived for shiva,  when someone told me a sanitation truck had pulled up outside and the driver was coming up the front steps.

I opened the door to find Robert sobbing quietly on the porch.   He told me how good my dad had been to him,   and how he would miss him,   and then he handed me a paper bag.   Someone had explained to him,  he said,  that it would be bad manners to come to a shiva without bringing some food or drink to share.

I hugged Robert and thanked him for coming,   and still teary-eyed he followed me inside.   I took his gift from the paper bag and set it down on my parents’  big dining room table,  already laden with gifts of fruits,  cakes,  and cookies.   But among the many offerings on that  table,  Robert’s six pack of Budweiser was certainly one of the most heartfelt of all.

Dana Susan Lehrman

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My wonderful dad.

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This retired librarian loves big city bustle and cozy country weekends, friends and family, good books and theatre, movies and jazz, travel, tennis, Yankee baseball, and writing about life as she sees it on her blog World Thru Brown Eyes!
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Tags: Death, Rituals
Characterizations: moving

Comments

  1. Betsy Pfau says:

    Lovely story, Dana. And Robert understand the tradition of bringing something for the shiva table, if not entirely what to bring. He definitely showed good manners and great heart.

  2. Marian says:

    Proof positive that anyone can show manners if they come from a place of kindness. Thanks for this story, Dana.

  3. John Shutkin says:

    What a beautiful story, Dana. And perfect for this prompt. As Betsy has observed, Robert exemplified the goodness that should come with truly good manners.

  4. What a beautifully crafted and moving story, Dee…my emotions were gathering below the surface and bubbled to the top with that six-pack. Well told!

  5. Suzy says:

    Very touching story, Dana. He knew it would be bad manners to come empty-handed, so he brought something that he and your father had enjoyed together.

  6. Khati Hendry says:

    This was a lovely and moving story, so well told. So many layers and fond memories–and lessons about what matters. I think your dad would have treasured the beer too. Thank you!

  7. Dave Ventre says:

    The shiva is a beautiful custom.

    In my family, the repast after a funeral was called “the afterglow.” I have never known anyone else who used that term.

  8. Laurie Levy says:

    This is a beautiful, moving story, Dana. Robert teaches all of us the true meaning of manners.

  9. Lovely story, Dana. There’s a lovely thread that runs through your story, as well as Betsy’s and, from the opposite side, in Barbara’s that to me proves the point: an essential element of “manners” is genuineness: the belief in and desire to show respect.

  10. Risa Nye says:

    Beautiful story, Dana. Of all the things people brought to the shiva, this is the one that would’ve stood out, and for good reason: it came from a place of love and friendship.

  11. Dana, this is a wonderful story and a very unique and creative response to the “manners” prompt. It suggests even more than what it states outright–the obvious acceptance and spirit of equality that your father promoted, between himself, a doctor, and someone with far less education and acumen. That lack of acumen is then on display in the gift that Robert brings to the shiva–a lack of acumen, but an abundance of true friendship, loyalty, and appreciation for your deceased father. .

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