Suprise Me

I spend time inundated by regret. I spend = and opposite time beset by anticipatory dread, a phrase taught me by JE. I am happy to be free of JE. I sadly miss JE. Freedom. Loss. Regret for the past, dread for the future. But wait! I can be here now. Zip! No regrets. No… Read More

Martha Lupton Schneidewind was the name of my high school journalism teacher. A tall, birdlike woman, she wore wool suits and ladylike scarves and had a quick, scampering walk. She was kind, loquacious and, to my insensitive teenage self, amusingly absurd with her chirping voice and outdated phraseology. During the mid-1960s, teenage drug use was… Read More

“Thank you, doctor,” I said via my own expressive raised eyebrow, accented by genuflection.  I went back outside. Read More

  Here is a short analogy that illustrates how perfectionism is a form of imbalance: Imagine a seesaw. On one side of the seesaw is perfectionism, and on the other side is self-acceptance. When we are perfectionists, we are putting all of our weight on the side of perfectionism. This causes the seesaw to become… Read More

We wore multiple hats because we had to, but we also thought we could do anything and no one was there to tell us we couldn’t. Read More

This is the story of the prom nobody remembers. Literally. All I know is who I went with and what I wore. Jeff, the boy I had been dating since New Year’s Eve of senior year, was a sophomore at Rutgers, but came home every weekend to see me. So when I asked him to… Read More

There were so many steps along the way where something could go wrong that it always had a bit of a magical quality to it for me whenever it worked. Read More

My first airplane flight at 3 by the US Air Force. Later, travelling coach on a train from Chicago to California Read More

"I'm at a payphone trying to call home/All of my change I spent on you." Maroon 5 sang this song in 2012, and I had to laugh. Read More

“My ex-husband thought of himself as a ‘breast man.’” She paused. “What have I gotten myself tangled up with here? A ‘floor man?’” Read More